10 Decisions You Will Not Regret In 10 Years

1.      Leave that abusive relationship: Well this gets tricky if you are married; you must get help at once. Seek help now don’t die in silence. Dial up agencies that take up the cause of women in abusive relationships and get help ASAP. If you are single, sing for joy, because you can always use the door whenever you choose. There is no reasoning out an abusive relationship, not even when a child is involved. Leave first; get into a safe environment with people who genuinely love and care about you. Only then can you make a wise and objective decision. This is never an easy decision to make so I’ll be praying for you, that God gives you strength to do what you must do and do it quickly. Safety first!



2.     Change your environment: I believe that God created a massive universe for a reason – so that we can explore and enjoy while having dominion. So why would anyone get stuck to one spot for years and years right? Why not have a change of scenery for once and I’m not talking about traveling or doing sleepovers, no. I am talking moving house, yes literally. I mean you’ve lived in that house in that neighborhood for what, 10 years? It is time to move! Peel off the bad paint hanging over your eyeballs and get new eyes. Begin to dream again. Look up the yellow pages and visit the real estate sites. Sometimes in order to begin internal alignment, we need a little nudge from the outside. And because change takes time, its usually in hindsight that we are able to see the benefit of what actions we’ve taken.

3.     Let go of toxic friendships: If something isn’t working and hasn’t been working for as along as you can remember, why force it? Why poison your sanity over and over again trying to mend broken glass? You can only get hurt trying to put back what is broken beyond repair. Let it go. Live and let live. Say your goodbyes, no harm done. Move on. Bless the past. Embrace the future. Bless the pain as well as the soothing balm. Bless the friendships that last and have supported you over the years. Remember to return the favor. But do not force the ones that have been marred and twisted beyond recognition. Let autumn leaves lie where they belong, for soon they are gone with the winds of time.

4.     Change your inner circle: I read somewhere, that in five years, your net-worth will be the average of the five closest people to you and your income is the average of the three closest people to you. Well what that simply means is if you want to fly stop hanging with the chickens. Get real. Get serious. Let me share a little secret with you; if you want to change your life, start thinking from where you want to be not where you are. In order words, you may start with what you have, but you will be making decisions from the place you want to be rather than where you are. Place yourself in a learning environment, where you constantly have to stretch all the time. What you do not want is to be the local champion. No, be surrounded by champions.

5.     Learn a new skill or craft: A friend of mine recently shared the news about her new interest and skill — leather works. She sent me the photo of a lovely trendy leather sandal she made by herself. How refreshing is that! A new skill to broaden and sharpen your mind. A new environment also falls into the mix, and a whole new community of people, colleagues, new perspectives, new ideas for business and a new source of income. New is the language of change. With new come many doors, many windows of opportunities. All of which have the power to transform your life in ways you cannot begin to imagine.

6.     Visit a place you’ve never been before: Go on holiday to some place new. Meet new people see with new eyes. Learn new tricks. Reason with an open mind. Discover new ways to solve problems and resolve conflict. Find a new cause, rekindle old flames from your childhood that you thought carried no meaning but now can see the light of day. Allow your mind liberty to soar. Breathe. Enjoy yourself; spoil yourself a little. Take time to laugh and listen to the little joys of the new faces around you. Light a candle, then another. Illuminate your world with new insights.

7.     Jump!: There are certain decisions in life we must take that can change ourselves from the inside out and vice-versa. The only obstacle is that we are reasoning too much. We are calculating and weighing the pros and cons and the process is never ending. It is good to be realistic and reasonable sometimes, but how many times have we swept our magical moments under the carpet because we are afraid, and do not know what to expect. We cringe and recoil in fear because we cannot see the other side. You may never know until you try. So jump in. Sometimes all you need is that nudge, a faint cry in the wind, a beckoning from a predecessor. Take the plunge. Jump and grow your wings on the way down.

8.     Fan the embers, create new fire: Never give up on the little things that define you and make you happy. See the big and begin with small baby steps that would eventually lead you there. Do not let survival overwhelm you that you sacrifice your whole life toiling to make a living you forget to live. Our passion and dreams or talents are not extra baggage that can be negotiated on this journey of life. They are ‘the’ luggage; so don’t get on board without checking ‘em in.

9.     Get yourself a mentor: People need help. Everyone needs someone to talk to and someone to listen to him or her and genuinely understand him or her. And that includes you and I. We need a little push at every phase of our lives – truth be told. So find yourself a mentor, one who you admire and respect. One who is kind and true and real. One who will be a guide and a support. That one believes in you and believes in your success and is willing to accompany you for a season to see that you grow into a person of stature.

10.    Take that very next step NOW: Life is a journey with turns and bends along our way. What is your next turn, and what are you going to do when you get there? Are you going to make that decision and take action? What decisions are you avoiding right now at this very moment? Consider this a moment and take that next step Now! 10 years may seem a very long time from today, but is it really? Doesn’t the last ten years seem like it was only yesterday? Wake up! A stitch in time saves nine.

This article was culled from TWmagazine and written by Bukkie Allison . Read more at https://acitygirlsmuse.wordpress.com/